Counselling Q&A | What Happens In Talking Therapy.

Honestly, I have so much to say about mental health and counselling so a Q&A felt like a good place to start. I hope you’re ready for a hefty old read! We all have mental health and reflecting on my experience I don’t think there’s anything more important than taking care of it. I really wanted to write this and share how I felt having talking therapy and what it’s really like. I asked on Instagram what would be useful for me to cover so I’m going to work my way through the Q’s and try not to waffle too much!

One quick thing, this is going to be a positive post. I’m still working on my mental health, and something I didn’t really think about is how much work I would have to put in after having therapy, but, it’s really changing my life for the better and it’s been amazing to find what actually brings me joy in life!

On to the questions…

How did you know you needed therapy?

I experienced some pretty negative things throughout my childhood, and I feel like now at a place where I’m the most stable I’ve ever been I’m finally processing everything. Before this year I had never lived alone and was constantly busy, I’m an extravert so I would just surround myself with other people and never have a moment to reflect. Unconsciously it’s always been there and it’s impacted me in different ways over the years, but it got to a point where it became hard to live with and be happy. I personally don’t think there’s a threshold for needing or wanting therapy, whether you’ve experienced direct trauma that you can pin point or feel like you want to understand your emotions/ feelings more, it’s something I think everyone could benefit from with the right kind of therapy and therapist to suit them.

What was the trigger point to go to therapy?

Similar to the previous question, but for me it was over a month of having really negative thoughts, both from the past and thinking about things that could happen in the future. I noticed it really started to impact my mood, relationships with people around me and I honestly just felt like I couldn’t control it or see the good in anything (which is the complete opposite of how I usually am). To put it simply I just felt low and I really wanted to change that.

How do you have the initial conversation with a GP?

Back in February I decided to try and get help through the NHS, I had a good week and then decided that I didn’t actually need it anymore. A few weeks later I realised I really did want to see someone, so I just decided to go private to get the ball rolling quicker and I found someone local to me through the Counselling Directory. I think you just have to be as open and honest as you possibly can, the GP should guide you with questions and I would just say be honest as you would with any other physical reason to go to the doctors. When it came to contacting a therapist I just outlined how I was feeling to give them a clearer understanding of whether they thought they could help me or not. There was an initial session/ consultation before therapy properly started that was also used to access whether the therapist thought she could help.

How did you know you had met the right counsellor for you?

This probably sounds obvious but it was purely from the fact I was able to speak openly and honestly to her. I think you just know. Probably should mention I’m quite an open person as it is (as you can probably tell), but I felt quite safe speaking to her about things and she just made me feel like there was no judgement and just compassion for my situation. It was really valuable to have someone who just listened but then asked questions that really helped me unpack everything and how I had been feeling.

What kind of counselling is it?

I decided to opt for talking therapy, specifically the person-centred approach. I had actually had the same therapy when I was 16 so I knew it worked for me. The therapist I saw had experience delivering mindfulness, CBT and a couple of other methods but actually suggested we used the person-centred approach so I was happy to go with that. The type of counselling method always depends on why you want counselling in the first place.

How did you know where to find someone?

I just did a quick google search and found the Counselling Directory. A lot of the therapists on there have a photo which definitely helps pick out someone who you think may be a good match. Something I also considered was price, going to a therapist once a week can get costly so I wanted to make sure it was something I could definitely commit to.

I hope this has been helpful for anyone that’s considering seeing a counsellor. I actually only ended up having three sessions and since I finished around a month ago life has been pretty good. Not every day or moment is easy, but I’m finding it so much easier to identify when I’m not feeling great and how I could potentially change that.

If there’s anything else you’re wondering please let me know in the comments and I will get back to you. A couple of resources I use that are bloody amazing are Happiful, Mind and the NHS website.

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10 responses to “Counselling Q&A | What Happens In Talking Therapy.”

  1. Lisa Autumn says:

    This was so helpful girl. Thank you for sharing!

    x Lisa |

  2. Teresa says:

    Someone close to me is in dire need of therapy, and me being someone who’s never seen a therapist, I find myself a bit unable to help them. But this post has shed light on so many of the questions I’ve been thinking about, thank you! Of course, the will to go in the first place has to come from the person themselves, but sometimes they might not even consider the therapy option until someone spells it out for them. xx

    Teresa Maria | Outlandish Blog

    • Jodie says:

      Thats really good to hear. Glad it’s helped. I honestly think sometimes people just need someone to listen to without any judgement or questioning of why they are feeling that way! x

  3. Lucy says:

    Thank you for sharing your experience Jodie, I think this will help a lot of people who are going through a similar thing. If you’re not feeling much happiness or any in your life, I think its important to recognise that and get the appropriate help! You’re doing amazing and thank you again for sharing!

    Lucy | Forever September

    • Jodie says:

      Thank you for such a lovely comment Lucy, really appreciate it! That’s exactly why I wanted to share this so I really hope it does help xx

  4. Lauren-J says:

    Love that you’ve written such an open and honest post about therapy! Definitely a piece a lot of people will benefit from – loved it! x

  5. Jasmine says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this post! I’ve been thinking about this for a while and what you said about surrounding yourself with people, constantly doing things etc. to avoid reflecting on painful thoughts / memories really resonated with me. I hope it’s going well for you 🙂

    Jasmine xx

    Jasmine Talks Beauty

    • Jodie says:

      Thank you for commenting Jasmine. I really hope it’s been helpful. A few months on and I’m so much more self aware and it really was one of the best things I’ve done for myself. It’s made me realise a lot about who I really am xx

  6. Honestly, I am so grateful that you’ve shared this post – I’ve felt like I’ve needed therapy for a long time now and the Counselling Directory is a really helpful website! I’m really sorry to hear that you had negative things happen to you in your childhood, but it’s inspiring to hear how well you’ve responded to therapy and are feeling genuinely so much happier now 🙂 xo

    Char |

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