Ever been called a pessimistic Polly or negative Nancy? I used to get it alllll the time! In response I would argue the fact that really I’m just a realist… Debatable
This year I’ve definitely started to open up more, and realised that actually you can’t sugar coat being a negative person, and there’s a huge difference between being a realist and gloomy af. Since the beginning of the year becoming more positive about everything in life is something I’ve been working on, so I thought I would share a few things that have helped me along the way.
I’ve spoken about this in a post I wrote earlier in the year on The Secret. Reading this and learning more about the law of attraction is really what started me off, and motivated me to change the way I was thinking about everything.
Honestly when I think about everything I have, and my life in general I can’t help but feel grateful, which in turn puts things into perspective for me. I think regardless of what situation you are in there is always a way to pull yourself out by being grateful for the things you do have, and focusing on those. I’ve found a good way of remembering to do this is by writing a list of 10 things I’m grateful for everyday, this has really helped me think about all the different areas in my life that are actually pretty bloomin’ amazing!
Socialising and cherishing relationships
I wouldn’t have initially associated this with positivity, but I really do think that having strong connections with family and friends is what makes it easy to live a positive life. There is no better feeling than knowing that people have your back.
Counteract a negative with a positive
At the beginning of the year when I decided I really wanted to change my response to situations, as soon as I had a negative thought I would instantly just think of something positive and good in my life. I think out of everything this has helped me the most, I don’t even have to think about being positive anymore, it’s like I’ve trained my brain to automatically look on the bright side of life – which for a ‘pessimistic Polly’ is a pretty big thing.
Only speak about positive things
Ok, if it’s something serious that’s really bothering me then of-course I’ll speak about it, but if it’s a passing comment and I would just be being negative for the sake of it then I try my best to just bite my tongue. I don’t know whether it’s a British thing but it seems like everyone has this fascination with being negative about the weather – why!? I’ve noticed when people speak positively it’s always a conversation 10x worth having, and I leave it feeling good.
I’m also trying to remember to smile (apart from when I’m in London, people automatically assume you fancy them when you smile there…) – but seriously, smiling makes you feel good and in a positive, uplifted mood!
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