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9.7.18

5 Things I Learned Getting Married.

Firstly, welcome to a week of wedding related posts! I'm going to be talking the venue, bridal beauty regime and everything in between, so if you're interested there will be something new at 8am every day this week. I'm kicking off this little series by basically sharing all of the advise that helped me have my dream wedding day, and what I learned getting married myself.

It's all about the people
Looking back at our wedding the memories I hold closest are those that involve my husband and the family and friends that came to celebrate with us. As much as I loved the venue, the beautiful cake and fresh flowers, they're not a talking point or something that actually really mattered, seeing the guests smiling and enjoying themselves is what made me happy most. Focus on pleasing the people that have gone out of their way to celebrate with you, as long as you have done that I honestly think nothing else is worth worrying about.

Wedding planning is stressful, but your wedding day shouldn't be
There's no sugar coating it, wedding planning is quite stressful and there are a lot of big decisions to be mader, but if there's one things I've learnt it's don't let the morning of your wedding be the same! At one point we considered having all the groomsmen bring the flowers to the venue the day of the wedding, boy am I glad we had them delivered! It's money well spent to make sure you have people co-ordinating the morning of your wedding and sorting everything else out for you so you can relax. The morning was so precious getting ready with all the girls, and if I had lots of little things to prepare it just wouldn't have been the same.
Not everything will go to plan
Honestly nothing major went wrong, but a couple of little things didn't go how we had planned... All you can do is keep calm and carry on. Just remember that you only get the day once and you can't dwell on those things. There's so much planning involved it would be very lucky if nothing went wrong, even slightly. Now, I focus on all the amazing surprises I had during my wedding day. The moments I never anticipated would happen that honestly felt magical.

You don't have to spend a fortune to have the most amazing day
Don't get me wrong, we did spend a lot of money. But we looked at what was realistic for us, made a budget and pretty much (nearly) stuck to it. It doesn't matter about other couples, everyone is different and will receive different amounts of help from family, or be in a better position financially. 3 months post wedding I'm so glad we didn't put extra things on credit cards or get in debt. Budget is such a personal thing for each couple, and now I'm out the other end I'm glad we didn't go too crazy. We had a day we absolutely loved and was right for us, without putting ourselves in stress post marriage about how we're going to pay it off.

If it's right for you, your guests are likely to love it
If you want to do something on your wedding, do it. I worried that a string quartet may actually make things a little too formal. If anything it added so much more emotion to the ceremony and so many of our guests told us how beautiful it was. The venue too, we loved it and our guests commented on how they much did. I think when it comes to decor, that's when guests may not be that bothered, so if your DIY sign doesn't turn out great the week before the day, don't stress!

At about 10.45pm the evening of our wedding, Jays auntie said "your wedding is amazing, but marriage is even better" and that for me put everything into perspective. The most important thing is being able to marry the person that makes you happy.

If you're married, what did getting married teach you?

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12 comments:

  1. Beautiful and superbly elegant outfit!
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  2. I'm getting married in 2 and a half months I just can't wait

    Candice | Natalya Amour

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    1. Ahh how exciting! That will soon be here, congratulations. I hope you have the most amazing day x

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  3. Your wedding photos are so beautiful! I'm nowhere near getting married but looking at the pictures of your special day made me excited to have one some day! xx

    Jessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

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    1. Thank you so much Jessie! Ohh you will, so glad you felt that looking at the photos x

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  4. The pictures are gorgeous! You and Jay are soooo cute! Yes, i agree, we also came to a conclusion that what matters the most are the people that will travel all the way to Wales for our wedding and its us and them who will make the whole day special. Very helpful post! Looking forward to the rest of them! xxx

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  5. I love your wedding photos! It sounds like you had a lovely day x

    Charlotte / myownblogofthoughts.blogspot.com

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  6. I cannot wait to read each post this week!
    Getting married has taught me so much already and it's only been 11 days, the most important lesson so far is how amazing it is just to wake up each morning to the person you love the most and just appreciate them on a whole new level!

    Xxx

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  7. Your wedding looked amazing! That cake is so pretty ☺️
    Southernbf.blogspot.com

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  8. I can't wait to get married one day.. this post was so beautiful and light hearted! Thanks girl

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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  9. These photos are absolutely beautiful Jodie. Although I'm not planning on getting married anytime soon, its still really interesting to read posts like this and imagine what it'll be like when I can actually start planning, haha!

    Lucy | Forever September

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