Feeling Like You Don’t Fit In.

For as long as I can remember I have felt like I don’t always fit in.
Honestly *I hope some of you can relate here* but during my teenage years I felt like I was different in a bad way. I remember a period of time that I would actively try and suppress my personalty, I was that person who made everyone laugh and I started to dislike that. Another thing I’m noticing more as I get older is that without even realising, social media has made me feel like I need to fit into one category. I feel like a good way to explain myself relates to style. On Instagram you see people that have a sense of style, they will always shop in the same few stores and do things in a certain way, I envy that they are so sure of themselves and know exactly what they want. One day I’m wearing something cute and girly, the next I’ll wear one of my husbands old shirts, ripped jeans and trainers – and I like both!

Another thing – every year there are awards to celebrate blogging/ bloggers and the blogs always fall into categories such as beauty, lifestyle, fashion, travel etc – it always makes me wonder, where do I come into this? I blog about all of those things AND more. Not that I’m too bothered about winning an award (although that would be lovely), it’s more the lack of belonging that I felt the first time I realised a couple of years ago that I just didn’t fit into one of the categories. It made me feel like I was doing something wrong, and again, not fitting in with the norm!

So, in many aspects of my life, I just don’t fit in! I don’t fit into the tick boxes created, and I can’t force myself to either. Maybe I’m just someone who is quite indecisive and likes a lot of different things. As I’m getting older and meeting more people, I’m realising that there’s also a few of us that are just taking life as it comes, whether they fit into the tick boxes or not.

It’s ok not to fit into a box. One day I’m the type of person who loves a night out, the next day I’m in bed by 9 listening to a podcast.

Throughout most of my teenage years and early twenties I have been trying to discover exactly what it is that I love, always wondering along the way why I can’t pin point one thing and be all for that. I’ve come to terms with the fact that it’s ok, I’m still figuring things out and actually it’s quite nice to be open minded about everything while I’m young!

I’ve spoken about the law of attraction before and I feel like it crosses over with this quite a lot, the more I’m learning to look at the positives the more I’m appreciating who I am in a positive way too. It’s ok to be unsure of certain things and I shouldn’t feel any pressure to be anything but myself. I’ve realised that actually blogging in itself is something I’m sure about and absolutely love, it doesn’t matter what I blog about – I’m still a part of the community and I do in a way fit in!

If you feel the same then know you’re not alone, and also know that actually it doesn’t matter. It might make it harder to reach certain decisions but I’ve found the more I experience in life the more I can whittle down the list of things I like/ dislike.


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15 responses to “Feeling Like You Don’t Fit In.”

  1. Lauren says:

    Lovely post, thanks for being so raw and honest! I am just starting out with my blog journey and in many ways I’m feeling the same!

    • Jodie Melissa says:

      Thank you for reading! I'm glad you liked the post. Ahh that's so exciting, good luck with it all!

  2. Lauren Victoria says:

    I'm so with you on this, Jodie! It can be hard to know where you fit into the blogging world when you blog about a range of subjects, but I feel like it's completely fine to do so. There are posts out there saying you need to have a niche, but at the end of the day, if you're writing about the things you love, then you have to keep to keep doing it no matter what other people say. Just do you xxLauren | itslaurenvictoria.co.uk

    • Jodie Melissa says:

      Lovely way to put it Lauren, and I agree! I think in terms of a business strategy it's clear that to grow quicker it's better to have a niche, but if you're not loving what you're doing then whats the point anyway!

  3. PetiteElliee says:

    OMG Jodie I am sooooo glad you have written this post!! I feel like a lot of us have these feelings and it's really hard to talk about but I feel like you have really tackled this well http://www.petiteelliee.com Ellie xx

    • Jodie Melissa says:

      Thank you Ellie! I'm so glad you think so, I found it difficult to write down and translate how I feel into words so I'm glad you know what I mean x

  4. Lucy Cole says:

    I loved this post so much girl! I'm exactly the same – one day I'm in the most feminine outfit, the next I'm in my mom jeans and trainers! So good to hear I'm not the only one. xxLucy | http://www.lucy-cole.co.uk

  5. Arianna says:

    Loved this post. It was so honest and personal💓Southernbf.blogspot.com

  6. Lisa Autumn says:

    Oh Jodie I could relate so much! Thank you for sharing your thoughts lovely 🙂 x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

  7. Jessie-Ann Lewis says:

    Fabulous post – so personal and lovely! I think it can be hard to just be yourself at times, so it's great that you're embracing you because you are fab! 🙂 xxJessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

  8. Everyday Life says:

    I like your rough and tough style…❤️www.geniusenough.com

  9. Honey_R.L. says:

    I have a feeling I've never fit in with any group and like I have to struggle all the time to fit in usually in some friend group. As I've grown older, I realized that it's not that bad. I can be with everybody and have a good time. My 3 best friends keep me focused on the good things. Also, regarding blogs and instagram, my friends are totally not into those stuff so they're my reality check. I'm as drawn into it as some people which I think is great for my sanity hahagreat post!xo Honey – blog Royal Lifestyle – Twitter – Instagram

  10. Charlotte Lane says:

    I feel exactly the same! I'm always like 'why don't I have a niche blog, a running Instagram theme, one style of fashion, etc'so I really needed to read this post Jodie – thank you for sharing it! It really is nice to know that I'm not alone xoChar | http://www.charslittleblog.co.uk

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