A personal goal for this year was – in short – to start looking on the bright side of life. I was feeling fed up of being he ‘glass half empty’ person, and I wanted to feel excited and optimistic about my future. I know it comes so naturally for some, but for me it really doesn’t. My guess is, if you’re reading this post it’s the same for you too. I wanted to share how I’ve been trying to embrace change more and manage stress. I’ve realised recently, instead of fearing the future and worrying when change comes my way, I want to embrace the change and feel positive about uncertainty, having options, and what’s to come…
Reframing my thinking to start embracing change
“Old ways won’t open new doors”
We have a choice when it comes to how we think. It’s hard to get a hold of at times, but we can do it. For me this has always been my biggest motivator to change my perception on change and uncertainty. You, like I, really do have the capacity to think differently, and focus on the thoughts that serve you.
I’m learning that so many life events and big changes can be looked at in a positive way, and having positive thoughts about them, often leads to a more positive outcome. Growth doesn’t happen when we’re comfortable. You lack new opportunities to grow as a person or gain new experiences. I rarely have that nervous feeling you get when you step out of your comfort zone, and I almost miss it.
I’m now seeing changing jobs, moving to a completely new city and getting married as so many new doors opening for me. It’s an opportunity to try something different, explore some where new and luckily have someone by my side that I love a whole lot. Having this mind set is making the process and lead up to it all so much more exciting.
“An unhappy mind can only create an unhappy life”
During my final year studying psychology I remember learning about stress and just how bad it is. A couple of years back I had my first and only panic attack. I had so many negative thoughts in my mind and so much worry that things would go wrong that I just collapsed. If only back then I had thought about everything in a more positive light and just took better care of myself! I now actively do things that I know make it easier for me to feel happy and positive most of the time, and it works!
For me there are a few things that help me manage stress and feel like I’m on top of everything. I feel like these will be different for everyone but in a nutshell I have been trying to care for myself a little more. I always make sure I’m not swamped with stuff and my space whether at home or work is clean/ tidy (tidy space tidy mind and all that), and I swear by my diary and lists. Organisation is a deal breaker for me, if I can’t find my diary I actually go into panic mode because I’ve got into the habit of writing every single important thing I need to remember in there. It just feels so good to put a tick next to all the little things I have to do (yes, I live for this sort of thing).
I’m always the best version of myself when I look after myself, I’ve kind of found what makes me tick and I’m more than happy to go with that, be a little selfish at times and make sure I do what makes me happy. When I take a step back, breathe, and just take a moment to be present, I realise how much my mind has been on over drive and how really, I’m often over thinking things that might not even happen!
I still have my bad moments where I can’t seem to snap out of overthinking everything, but they are becoming less and less and not lasting anywhere near as long as they used to. I’m embracing getting older and the “scary” things life throws at you.
I hope you have enjoyed this post/ found it useful. I loved writing it and the whole topic of self care and stress management is something I’m really passionate about and it’s something I’m definitely having to practise right now! If you have any tips on how to keep your cool when you’re loosing your shiz inside then please do let me know…
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