As most of you will know I’m getting married next year… Recently I read a post by Lydia Millen (said post here) that inspired me to share my thoughts and feelings on getting married and how I feel about the whole planning process.
I never planned to get married at 22, and certainly never thought I would be engaged at 20 – I mean who does really? As I’ve got older I’ve realised you can’t predict anything. Everyones path in life is different. A long time before Jay proposed I some how just knew he was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, so why not get married and celebrate that.
I feel like I got lucky meeting Jay, I was so unlucky in other aspects of my life and without him I don’t really know where I would be right now. When I imagine the wedding and the emotions I’m likely to feel on the day it fills me with excitement, one part of the day I envisage the most is meeting Jay at the end of the aisle just before getting married – I think I’ll be needing some tissues for that…
When I was younger marriage wasn’t something I ever thought about, my mum wasn’t married and I hadn’t been to many weddings, so when it came to deciding on how and where we should get married it was a tricky one. In the end we looked at our day to day lives and the things we enjoy in that, and then tried to make a wedding around those – spending time with friends and family, music and food…
The more I think about the wedding, the more important the ‘getting married’ bit becomes, it sounds simple but it’s what the whole day is in celebration of. The most important people in your life are there for that and everything extra is just a bonus.
In terms of wedding planning I’m probably feeling a lot more laid back than I should be at the minute. We only have 5 months to go but I’m just trying to enjoy taking things one step at a time. As much as I’m loving the whole planning process it takes up so much time and I know I need to get organised with all of the DIY jobs I want to achieve before the day.
When wedding planning it’s really easy to get lost into caring about what will make others happy on your wedding day. Of-course to a certain extent that’s fine, but I’ve started to think more about what myself and Jay would want instead – It’s our wedding after all! I’m going to mention the dreaded b work now, BUDGET. If myself and Jay can’t afford something we just accept that and move on – I know I would rather be debt free after the wedding. I think one of the main issues is that it’s so easy to get carried away, it’s looking like we’ll be going over our budget by 1/4 with all of the little costs we didn’t think about at the beginning.
Also, with the internet I feel like expectations for weddings and wedding decor are much higher than they used to be. In reality a lot of the beautiful wedding set ups are actually styled shoots, that’s something I remind myself when thinking about what we should go for and budget – fresh flowers are ££££.
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